It’s called “the reward theory of attraction”; simply put, we like people who make us feel gratified and rewarded when we’re around them.If a relationship brings more pleasure than discomfort, then we find ourselves drawn to them and want that relationship to continue.
Or have you ever wished you could find a way to join a group of cool people and fit in like you’ve always belonged?
Ever wish you could be one of those people who can just make friends the way other folks breathe?
The sort of person who can just sit down with someone and have them feeling like they’ve known you for even though you’ve only just met? We’ve talked a lot about charm and charisma before, and what it takes to be a more fascinating, magnetic person.
The key that underlies it all, to building a rapport and finding that connection, is simple: you have to be able to make people feel good.
It sends the message that you don’t want them to feel cornered, as well as opening your body language. Yes, I realize that this seems like a nit-picky idea, but the tilt of your head actually communicates more non-verbally than you’d think.
Tilting your chin up at someone gives the impression that you’re looking down your nose at them, which will convey a sense of arrogance or even disdain for the person you’re talking to.
Tilting your chin down ever so slightly gives a feeling of being equal and approachable.
While your words may be positive, your closed off body language will be incongruent with what you’re saying and leave people feeling uneasy and confused.
Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even So the first key is to not give someone – especially women – the full frontal experience; that is, to standing toe to toe with them.
Facing a stranger square on can feel intimidating; it can come across as though you’re trying to box them in.
Instead, you want to angle yourself slightly away from them, which feels more accommodating and friendly.