The "cute" had the tone one would use when describing a baby.
"I always wanted to have one," she said, looking into my eyes.
Later that night, she invited me to the Asian Men Black Women Persuasion Facebook group.
Photo courtesy of Asian Men and Black Women Connections (NYC)I first learned about the "Asian Men Black Women" (AMBW) community about seven months ago, when I was on a date with a black girl.
She seemed to really like the fact that I was Asian.
She grew up watching K-pop, and said she would always think, .
“Saving face–ensuring that you maintain the highest level of honor, respect, and reputation–is the most important thing to understand about Asian cultures. I think this may vary from nationality to nationality, because I once had instant message sex with an old Filipino acquaintance who told me how he’d like to…you know what…every which way. I also bet the guy over at Blasian Love might have a thing or two to say about all this.
It permeates everything in Asian life, including career, family, food and even sex,” says Davies. In fact, I’m going to ask them and have them reply so you can get the words from the Asian guys I know themselves.
On the positive, Davies says that Asian men like to take their time to get to know you first, and they ALWAYS pay for the date, so you can leave your wallet at home. And because she loves me so much, she says that anyone from BB&W who buys her book through her site will get an autographed copy.
If you know next to nothing about dating other cultures, this is a very, very enlightening read.
What I like best is how she organizes the dating experiences of each race–Hispanic, Asian, Indian, Jewish and Black– by chapter and section. D., JD., or some engineer-ey, computer geek-like vocation. Apparently food is how Asian families express how they feel about each other.
She gives frank talk on what you can expect–from dating, to family and even sex. So I guess if you’re served a plate of pig poo at the family reunion you pretty much know where you stand.
And I’m now reading the “Yellow Fever” chapter with much interest, because I never knew how complicated the whole Asian dating thing can be. But what gave me pause in Davies’ chapter on dating Asians was her view that they were VERY open to interracial relationships.
First, according to Davies, Asians are ALL ABOUT what you do for a living. But…it depends on the Which brings me to the topic of “face.” Jo Gan talks a lot about this on her blog, Life Behind the Wall (BTW, Jo is a black woman married to a Chinese man). She’s quick to mention that discount the sexual needs of their women, but it would be interesting to find out how true this generalization is.