Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” ~Billy Wilder I’ve had my share of toxic relationships, or at least what I thought was toxic. My guess is that we’ve all endured the company of people who were not shooting for our highest good.
Why did I have to sacrifice my happiness for what society says was right?
I was living stifled in self-judgment and fear, and I’m sure society couldn’t have cared less! It’s important to know when you’re in a toxic relationship so you can choose something better for yourself.
While some difficult relationships can open our eyes to new perspectives and expand our awareness, some obviously shut us in and hinder our development. When I was in my toxic relationships, I ignored my intuition in favor of my logical mind, which told me that losing that person was worse than having him/her around.
But our intuition knows best; unlike our mind, its only motive is our happiness.
“Toxic” doesn’t only entail obvious damage like physical abuse, stealing, or name-calling.
It also represents all the internal turmoil that results from an unhealthy relationship.
I’d like to share how I learned to recognize when I was in a relationship that was not suitable for me.
I call these relationships toxic because my authentic self withered away into someone I didn’t recognize—denying all that was natural for me.
The label “toxic” means something that drains life and energy.