Nearly 50 years after Richard and Mildred Loving took on America's anti-miscegenation laws, partners of different racial backgrounds no longer need to hide their relationships for fear of legal persecution.But while things changed socially, there's still a lot missing from the conversation surrounding interracial relationships.The country has a long way to go in terms of racial discourse, period.
Seeking out a relationship with Asian women because they're supposedly submissive or black women because they're "freaks," in bed is not cool.
'Mandigo' and 'Spicy Latin Lover' stereotypes about men of color are also harmful.
Notice that all of these stereotypes are sexualized, turning people into objects and ideas.
But we should bear in mind that there are kinds of couplings in the interracial dating world that aren't acknowledged nearly as much, and that interracial can mean a black woman with an Asian man.
Sometimes, interracial couples may not even "look" like interracial couples -- some multiracial people can read as "racially ambiguous," or be mistaken for a certain race or ethnicity that they don't identify with. These kinds of questions only perpetuate racial stereotypes (regardless of whether they're "positive" or not) and turn the idea of interracial dating into a kind of experiment or phase.
All these kinds of pairings come with a wholly different context and meaning, as do interracial couplings between people who aren't heterosexual or cis. While sex can be an important component of many people's relationships, it shouldn't be viewed as the primary motivation for any committed relationship, interracial or otherwise. There's A Fine Line Between Admiration And Fetishization It's universally wrong to fetishize a romantic partner to the exclusion of respecting them.
A broadened idea of what constitutes an interracial relationship also broadens the discussion. It's Not Just About Sex Many questions some people in interracial relationships receive hinge on sex. As such, fetishization and sexualization in interracial relationships is wrong.
As a black woman dating a non-black (and non-white) man, I've become more and more aware of the way in which these stereotypes dictate the way we think about -- and talk about -- interracial dating.
Below are some of things you should keep in mind when it comes to interracial relationships: 1.