Early attraction often involves the physical attributes of the partner and include things like outward appearance, body type, interests and personality traits.At this stage, the attraction may not be too “deep” and each half of a couple is generally putting his or her best foot forward.
There are 4 predictable stages that couples experience in a dating relationship.
At each stage, there is often a decision (sometimes more thoughtfully arrived at than others) to move forward or to end the relationship.
Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.
Unfortunately, some people don’t fully experience and process each stage as an opportunity for personal growth or to make a healthy evaluation about the relationship or about themselves.
Stage 1: Initial Meeting/Attraction Dating relationships have to start somewhere.
The initial meeting may take place over the internet, through friends, in a church or social group, at a party or bar or any one of a myriad of many different places.
Different arenas for meeting allow for different opportunities to get to know each other and see if there is enough curiosity or interest to take it to the next level which would involve arranging a second or third meeting.
Stage 2: Curiosity, Interest, and Infatuation During the second stage, attraction and infatuation are most pronounced.
Often (not always) there is not enough “is this the right person for me” but rather more “what can I do to make this person like me?
” This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding.
Towards the end of this stage, and hopefully at other times throughout it, it is not unusual for questions of “is this the right person for me” to emerge.