Polyamory helps me do that without putting all my needs on my husband.'She said they first brought up the subject after moving in together aged 18 when they came across the question 'how do you feel about monogamy?' in a magazine survey and they both selected the answer 'it's an unrealistic expectation.'She said smartphones have been a 'huge blessing' to people in more than one relationship: 'It's so much easier to make people feel like they're part of your day by sending a quick hello text or a picture of something that reminded you of them that helps keep them close to you even as you have a separate life.' Lisa said both her and her husband had many dependency issues at the start of their relationship and having multiple partners has highlighted that they need to be independent.
But when she met her she claims she 'totally got it' and saw how it 'brought out a totally different side' of her husband.
So you’ve been reading about polyamory and have decided it’s something you want to try.
Or maybe you’re still thinking about it, but don’t have a clear sense of where you’d even begin.
Here are a few tips, guidelines, and things to consider for people just starting out in the poly world.
Partly because it’s outside of our cultural norm, and partly because it involves coordinating the needs and preferences of so many people, being happily polyamorous pretty much requires the ability to reflect on what you want and communicate it with your partners.
Whether you’re starting out solo or opening up an existing relationship, these are some questions that will be very helpful to ponder at the beginning of your poly journey.
What great things are you expecting polyamory to bring to your life? Someone to go with you to movies that your partner hates? There are lots of good reasons to get into polyamory, and making it clear to yourself which things are most important to you will help guide your decisions.
A married woman who has admitted to being in relationships with five different men at once - just one of whom is her husband - claims that the other men in her life have actually helped to strengthen her marriage.
Writing under the pseudonym of Lisa, the 34-year-old said she has been in a relationship with her husband for half of her life, but claims having other partners has improved rather than hindered their partnership.