) I almost wrote it all and sent it out last night, but I decided I need to cool off first.Truly amazing men who were great friends, fantastic supporters of mine and some of my best cheerleaders for all of my crazy business ideas. It seems that most mature men don’t seem to even care about my body type. Maybe because I am so straight forward on my ads so then only men who are feeling me, reply?Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.
Well, I never really thought I would write this blog. I decided to cool down and wait 24 hours before I blurted it all out here. So, for starters, I have had two of the most amazing men in my life and two wonderful long term relationships in my life; I count myself super grateful and blessed.
Been doing the online dating thing for about 3 months now. I loved these men to pieces and they loved me back. ) “You’re sure are picky for a fat woman.” You bet your ass I am! I would MUCH rather be alone and lonely then with some dickhead and lonely. I know you big girls like the big one’s” Whoa, there stud.
Something happened via email yesterday morning that made me sort of snap! Total unconditional love and everyone should be loved as well as I have been loved. Could we maybe meet first before you start telling me all about your junk. How about we shake hands once or twice before we start talking about “bumping uglies.” I could go on and on. But, like I said, 95% of my experiences have been great.
This was after a very rude string of back and forth emails with someone very hate filled that I turned down for a date.
And, for the most part, the online dating adventure has been exactly that. But, there have been a few interactions that have gone really really bad. As in “you fat bitch” and one that I reported to a friend of mine (who is a San Jose PD detective) that basically said I would be better off dead. Now, I am certain that this sort of thing happens to women of all sizes and shapes. Well, “you fat bitch” probably only happens to fat women. You can be a size 2 and get plenty of hate mail and comments. There are way too many amazing, uplifting people in the world to spend your days with those ass hats. And, if you find yourself being harassed online via email or message or texts, just keep replying with the words ” Please stop emailing me.” Or “Please stop texting me.” Be clear. And, when you get someone who is being rude via text or your cell phone – do NOT delete their telephone number from your phone.
It is so fascinating how one moment someone is basically begging me to go on a date with them and then the next minute, after I politely turn them down, that it turns so ugly. (“Eat a cheeseburger” memes come to mind.) When you are fat woman online, you get fun stuff like this: (And, I do believe in full disclosure. Just change the name in your contact to “Dick head. He made threats to me” or something like that so you have their telephone number and you NEVER mistakenly answer their call.So all of my online profiles include some verbiage that I am NOT looking to hook up or for a booty call. Just a few tips from my friend who deals with this kind of bullying and threats a lot.And, I also say I am a very sassy, voluptuous woman and even use the word BBW and spell out “big beautiful woman.”) “Wanna fuck? Over the course of five days, 'fat' Yvette (pictured left) received 18 messages, 74 likes and 81 visits. It’s something many single people wonder, myself included.My weight has fluctuated dramatically throughout my life – I was a fat child, a thin teenager, a chubby sixth former, a skinny student and so on, up and down through my adult life.