As any woman knows, dating, even in the age of Tinder and OKCupid can be an ordeal akin to slogging through a fetid marsh in search of treasure.For bisexuals, and indeed anyone who does not identify as being straight, gay, or lesbian, this is further complicated by the numerous stereotypes that have been associated with them.In my experience, I’ve found that it’s often necessary to approach dating as though it was a hostile fortress in Skyrim, which seems appropriate, given how many men view bisexual women as tokens to be won.
However, there remain a few hurdles to finding love, among them the fact that the very definition of bisexuality is under debate.
Bisexuality may be defined as “romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior toward both males and females, or romantic or sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender identity.” The latter may be considered as a separate orientation, that being pansexuality.
To sum up, some people identify as being pansexual rather than bisexual, and others as bisexual and are attracted to people regardless of gender identity or sex.
All of this means that human sexuality is extremely diverse, in spite of the prejudices that still exist.
As it happens, identifying yourself as bisexual isn’t a guarantee to fill your dance card, and it often deters members of the queer community — which is odd because one might think that they would be the most open to dating people who are attracted to more than one gender.
In fact, some lesbians and gay men are hostile toward bisexuals because they think that being bi is “just a phase,” your sexuality is “college experimentation” and that you should “pick a side already.” Contrary to popular misconceptions, sexuality is not a matter of teams, and you don’t have to choose.
Even so, when asked if they would date a bisexual woman, many lesbians often say “no,” with their answers ranging from not wanting to bring men into their relationship, to worrying that being bisexual is synonymous with cheating.
My bisexuality is seized like Excalibur by men who transform from good company to creeps in nanoseconds.
Being treated like an anomaly is in no way a turn-on, particularly when it’s not as if LGBTQ people are an endangered population.
According to surveys done in the United States and around the world, an estimated 3.5% of adults in the United States identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual and an estimated 0.3% of adults are transgender, with the National Health Interview Survey finding that 0.7% of adults consider themselves bisexual.
The results of such surveys would suggest there are approximately nine million LGBTQ Americans, that there are more bisexual women than men, and therefore far more of them are looking for a date than is suggested by the media.