I eagerly answered him with “If I Fell” by The Beatles.
A month and a half later, he arrived in the Philippines (after traveling 17,000 miles) to come be with his girlfriend for two weeks.
That was enough time to make him realize that I was the one, the one to make him go back to the States, sell all his possessions, quit his job, and come back to be with me. So now that we’re all starry-eyed and hope-filled, onto the serious stuff.
Given the many opinions and – ahem – constant evolution of the Internet dating scene, who better than a success story to help guide you through the process, its potential – and many – pitfalls?
Before we get started, a hopeful word for skeptics and beginners.
I was a Filipina in Manila looking for a worthy pen-pal to exchange emails with.
Right away, I checked out his profile, liked what I read, and sent him a message. In a span of a month, we went through all the online “getting to know you” stages.
Epic emails of a thousand words each turned into daily text chats on Skype.
Then voicemail mp3s sent by email (because we were still too chicken to talk face-to-face, in real time). Fact: If you meet someone you can talk to every day and every night and still find the energy to email five times a day and not get sick of each other, then that’s probably a great sign.
And distance, plus the Internet, will force you to figure that out. He first told me how he felt by sending a Youtube link to “I Think I Love You” by David Cassidy.
An experienced participant of long-term, long-distance relationships, I’ve never let proximity get in the way of true love and I’m a travel lover – so I signed up for OKCupid and didn’t limit myself. He really didn’t know anyone in his area and worked from home, so he had very limited opportunities to meet anyone new.
He’d had a few girlfriends in the past and had tried casual dating for a while, but nothing had evolved into a serious relationship.