What they reported liking most was talking and relating to women—something they can’t do with their buddies.Meanwhile, women rated their same-sex friendships higher on all these counts.
“When Harry Met Sally” posed the age-old question, and seemed to answer it: No. This popular You Tube video posits largely the same premise – men will always want to sleep with their platonic girlfriends.
But if you’re lucky, you can fall in love with your best friend.
And while I don’t trust college boys to teach any life lessons in platonic friendship, even science validates their claim that men will sleep with their friends.
From this Psychology Today article: “In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Sapadin asked more than 150 professional men and women what they liked and disliked about their cross-sex friendships. Men, on the other hand, more frequently replied that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and that it could even deepen a friendship.
Men choose women because you listen to them, provide empathy and support and affection – none of which he really gets from his guy friends.
As for me, I do believe that men and women can be friends.
Here are the ways in which I’ve made women friends: 1) . It’s easy to be friends with someone you’d never sleep with. While attraction itself is not a choice, acting on that attraction is.
Either way, 62 percent of all subjects reported that sexual tension was present in their cross-sex friendships.” Pretty predictable, but important for women to understand.
If a guy is making an effort to hang out with you, it’s probably not just “as friends”.