If we’re looking to meet men for sex, there are also many options.However, we might have many questions about these options.What really happens in a bar or bathhouse; the phone and internet chat lines; in parks or public washrooms? This Handy Dandy How-To Handbook will hopefully answer these and other questions.
You can download a PDF of this brochure at the bottom of this page.
Bars, clubs, the baths, online, sex party's, public sex...
There are many reasons why men meet other men: for friendship, for a sense of community, to find a boyfriend, to have sex.
There are many ways to meet men: joining recreational or sports groups, getting involved with religious, cultural or social organizations or volunteering with community groups.
By knowing what to expect, you’ll be better prepared to reduce the risk of getting or passing on HIV (the virus that causes AIDS) and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like syphilis or gonorrhea.
This is important: nobody ever told us what to expect when cruising, the things we can do to get the most of our cruising experience, or how to protect ourselves and others. We’re not identifying places where men have sex with each other in order to classify them as risky places for HIV or other STIs.
Rather, these places can be as safe as you make them.
There’s no need to feel guilty or ashamed if you cruise or enjoy casual sex or public sex.
This can be difficult as society still holds negative views about sex between guys.
We may have been raised in cultures that hold negative views about sex, sexuality or sex between men.
We might have unrealistic attitudes about what happens in certain places, or the kinds of men who use these places. Learning about the culture of the places where you cruise is important if you want to have a fun and healthy experience.