You must transition naturally while subtly implying where things are headed. The two that have always worked for me are: “What are you wearing? “I’m trying to imagine what you look like right now.”, “Haha, you’ll just have to find out.” That’s usually more than enough to get her to tell you or say “okay”.
Then roll back into, “So describe it to me.” Once she answers those initial questions, follow up with the question that kickstarts the session: “Where are your hands right now? Then to rub her fingers gently over her clit and so on.
Imagine how you’d speak if you were comforting her from a headache.
Or that kind of husky, deliberate voice you get when you just wake up.
Now you want to use that seductive voice to move things toward a more sexual dynamic. At the same time, she understands you probably aren’t asking what she’s wearing in the middle of the night for fashion purposes. Immediately, one of two things always happen: If you get a response similar to #2, then stand by why you asked.
These were women I had NOT been previously intimate with. But they all led to real sex almost immediately after. In the age of sexting, phone sex is like forgotten lore. The last time I’ve actually heard it referenced in the mainstream was during American Pie 2. Remember my 80/20 rule – 80% normal conversation, 20% flirting.
Even then it was shown to be awkward and unsuccessful. I want to prove how phone sex can be an incredibly fun and sensual experience for everyone. I usually speak with women for an hour or more before getting intimate over the phone. That means you want to regularly sprinkle in: These are your litmus tests to gauge her interest. As long as she’s responding well (laughing, flirting/teasing back, is still engaged in conversation) progress to being more bold and sexual.
That it’s not just for long-distance relationships, but also a great way to ease into a sexual connection with someone you’re still getting to know. She’s laying back in her PJs, maybe sipping some wine, and usually somewhere private. Of course, you can have phone sex during the day if you’ve been dating for a while. You want to genuinely enjoy getting to know her and deepening the connection. You can’t expect her to dirty talk with you if she doesn’t feel secure with you. For her to consider having sexy talk with you, she needs to feel attraction towards you. If she hesitates or acts indifferent, continue talking for a couple of minutes and then try again.
If that’s too much work for you, then please continue Snapchatting girls pictures of your junk. Remember, you aren’t going to lead it to phone sex by acting like a platonic friend. She’ll feel safe, comfortable, and turned on like hell – a winning combination.
If you get to the point where you’re talking about sexual topics or making sexual jokes and she’s still happy…
Speaking in a lower and slower paced tone will help relax her into the mood.