Their sexual past goes against all of your deeply held values about the way people should conduct themselves, what is good, what is proper, and what is right.How could they just throw away their virginity like it was nothing? They just threw their body away and never thought twice.
But by seeing their choices for what they are (differences between you and them), you can use the knowledge to adjust your understanding of your partner. Where did their choices come from (psychologically)? Were their decisions a fluke of youth, or a part of their current character?
How has their sexual past shaped their attitudes today?
What does that mean for your compatibility in the future?
Here’s the situation: You’re dating somebody that you really, really like. But there’s a problem: They’ve got a sexual history, and it’s eating you alive.
As a virgin who is waiting till marriage, dealing with a partner’s sexual past is one of the greatest and most painful challenges you’ll face in romantic relationships.
Sometimes the pain is immediate: You’ve been in love with your partner for a while, and then one day you discover the sordid details of their sexual past and it wrecks you.
Sometimes it creeps up on you: You’ve known about their history from the beginning, but it didn’t really bother you until now.
And now all of a sudden, it’s like you can’t stop thinking about it and torturing yourself with mental pictures.
This has gone from a minor annoyance to a major and central problem in your relationship.