Bachelor #2, Randy, was very obviously from the get go just looking for uncomplicated fun.
The chemistry was definitely there and so was a mutual appreciation for 80s music.
Nevertheless, I set some boundaries after date one, declining Randy’s offer to have our second date happen at my place.
His only invitation to get together, though, came late on a Friday night. ” I declined, later telling him I enjoyed his company but wasn’t interested in a fling. ” he wrote testily “I didn’t say anything and it’s not right to assume anything.” True.
It’s not right to make assumptions, especially with a medium like texting that’s makes miscommunication an all too common thing.
Sometimes, though, it communicates incompatibility loud and clear—and, fortunately, very quickly. Recent experiences reminded me of why — and how murky the dating landscape has become.
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The flip side—it also makes it much easier to detect when someone you’re dating isn’t a good fit.Two recent dates with two bachelors I met on How About We illustrated this fact.After going out twice with S, I wasn’t quite sure if the chemistry was there for me.Still, at this stage of dating, I usually give it three dates before making a determination.After all, chemistry can take a little time to develop, right? When I reach out (yes, via text) day of to confirm, he says he ‘totally forgot’ we had plans and asks to reschedule. On the rescheduled day, S initially texts to say we’re on for dinner.Then, a few hours later, he texts again, saying– “You’re not going to believe this, but I have close out a business event tonight so I have to cancel. What I was sure about was that S probably felt my reticence and was accordingly blowing me off.