Her main flaw, of course, is that she didn’t want to marry you.And any woman who doesn’t want to marry you isn’t really a very good choice for a wife.
In my mind she was perfect in every way, (except for the part where she just wasn’t that into me). It’s a rose-colored view of your ex, one that you’re having a hard time letting go of.
I’ve been dating on and off the past year and I have two main problems: I would be much more concerned with your second problem than your first. This is a common problem, one that is usually remedied by falling in love with someone. Do yourself a favor and think of the things that you didn’t like about your ex.
Once you’re crazy about a girl, you won’t have to think twice as to whether you want to be in a relationship with her. Now, I understand that she broke up with you, so you never really developed a chance to hate her.
But that doesn’t mean she’s perfect – not by a long shot.
Of course, that blindness wears off, which is why, when you talk to older couples who have been married for 30+ years, they’ll almost always tell you some version of “It’s hard work/We’re really just best friends/We know how to communicate and argue well/We support each other when it’s tough.” Etc, etc….
A favorite cliché says, “It’s not that my partner is perfect, it’s that she’s perfect for me.” We are willing to overlook all sorts of things when we’re in love.
This explains a phenomenon like battered wives, who stay because even though their husbands hit them, they always claim to love them as well.
I dated this girl for 2 years and we broke up last year.
We broke up because she realized that she was no longer “in love” with me and that she felt there wasn’t enough of a spark.
Truth be told, there was another guy in the picture who she obviously had a bigger spark with.
This wasn’t my first breakup but it hit me really hard because I was so in love with her.