He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
DATING MISTAKE 2: I got involved when he was still raging a war against his ex.
TIP 2: Make sure that the divorced guy you are dating is over his ex and/or knows how to handle his emotions towards her.
The challenge I had was that it felt like I was in a relationship with both of them. This would cause a lot of tension in him and would then be transferred into our relationship, which caused a lot of stress on both of us.
To avoid this, it's key that he is seeing a third party or that he has moved on so you can focus on having a good time.
DATING MISTAKE 3: We moved into together too quickly. Figure out whether the divorced guy is the right person for you. By moving in together within the first month, we both took a lot on.
I took on the new responsibility of not only getting used to living with him, but also being introduced to his children.In addition, he doubled his commuting time, which added more stress to the plate.to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.