When a close friend is dating someone you don’t like, what do you do?
The answer is easy: you step in and do whatever it takes to break them up. Okay, we know that answer won’t win the million-dollar prize.
We talked with some friends who have experienced this and shared their insights with us. Is the boyfriend or girlfriend a bad influence on your friend? Do you think your friend’s date is a bad influence?
If someone has a different set of values, or lifestyle choices, you may think your friend is doing harm to mind, body, or spirit.
Obviously, abuse issues are a huge red flag and need to be dealt with directly.
Or, sometimes the boyfriend or girlfriend may appear to be overly controlling, demanding, or demeaning.
If your friend is in a relationship that diminishes self-esteem, rather than enhancing it, pray earnestly and look for ways to build up and encourage your friend.
Look for an open door to discuss the dating relationship and what you see that may be harmful.
At first, Julie didn’t like her roommate’s new boyfriend. He didn’t take her seriously, and I hated seeing her unhappy and disappointed a lot,” Julie said.
“I thought she deserved better.” Gradually he changed, and the relationship grew in a positive direction. Often a Christian who is dating a non-believer will be dragged down by the relationship.
Christi tells about a close friend who fell in love with the “perfect” guy: tall, athletic, good-looking and fun to be around.
He treated her well, but had little interest in furthering his relationship with God.
Christi said, “God had been at the forefront of my friend’s heart, but he was getting overshadowed by the new boyfriend and all his wonderful personal qualities.