Dating for divorced parents

So what’s it like to get back into the relationships saddle after a break-up – and can you really find love as a single mum? Before you had children, there were endless opportunities to meet guys: at work, at the gym, in the bar on a night out.But now your social life revolves around the park and soft play, you’re less likely to spontaneously cross paths with eligible men.

The dating game is always a minefield, and never more so than when you have kids.

After all, every Tinder-swipe and blind date is not just a potential life partner, but a potential father figure to your children, too – no pressure!

It’s also a very different experience from dating pre-kids.

Once upon a time, you had all day to get ready for a night out; now, you’re more likely to be picking encrusted fish finger off your skinnies, en route to your date - and that's assuming you manage to make it out the door at all!

But if you’re looking for ' The One', honesty is the best policy from the word go.

Mentioning your children in your dating site profile at least means everything is out in the open from the start: no awkward conversations later, or wasted dates with guys who model themselves on the Child Catcher from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

But you don’t have to opt for full disclosure, as long as you’re prepared to tackle the subject later down the line if things get serious.

What’s not to love about indulging in a bit of online flirtation while your toddler naps – especially since you heard Leonardo Di Caprio was on Tinder…Cue hours spent practising your selfie pout in the bathroom mirror; no one need know you’re still in your porridge-splattered PJs from the neck down. On the one hand, you’re so pathetically grateful for any romantic interest that you want to snap up every date that’s offered – but on the other, your free time is so limited that you don’t want to waste a rare night of babysitting on a no-hoper. So, you’ve swiped right and there are definite sparks flying around cyberspace, but when do you 'fess up to having kids?

Should you go out with that sexy but vapid topless guy just for the fun of it, even though you’re 99 per cent certain that he’ll bore you to death within minutes (despite being very easy on the eye)? It all depends on what you’re looking for in a relationship.

The key is to ask questions – LOADS of questions – before agreeing to a date. If it’s just a casual hook-up (naughty but so nice!

) you might decide to pretend to be blissfully child-free.

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