By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.
He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.
If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.
You will most likely have ongoing contact with your husband after the divorce because of the children.
Dating during divorce can poison the spirit of cooperation and affect your life for a long time after the divorce is final (and possibly after your boyfriend is history).
Legal reasons not to date before divorce As far as the courts are concerned, you are still legally married until the divorce is finalized.
In states that recognize fault in a divorce case, dating during divorce can be viewed as adultery.
This can affect the outcome of your divorce as far as spousal support and the eventual property settlement goes.
Believe me, he will likely react to the fact that you are dating by making your life hell during the divorce process.
He may seek revenge to compensate for the anger, hurt, and embarrassment that he feels you have caused him.
Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.
All he will focus on is that he has been wronged and will want to seek justice anyway he can.