How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.
That’s actually the preferred situation, because then you have multiple sets of eyes confirming that this person is who they appear to be.
But don’t just take your boyfriend or girlfriend’s word for it. That same study said that people who dated a very long time before marriage—like a number of years—were also less likely to stay married.
In fact, they tended to divorce quicker than those with short courtships.
Somewhere in my mid-twenties, I was invited to attend The Porch by a friend.
The Porch was a weekly young adult ministry taking place at Watermark Church in Dallas.
I enjoyed my experience so much that I became a regular attendee and watched in amazement at how this ministry changed the spiritual landscape of twenty-somethings in Dallas and which now sees regular attendance from about 3,000 single adults each week.God certainly has his hand in this very special ministry and one of His greatest tools is The Porch’s leader Jonathan “JP” Pokluda.A pastor friend of mine recently asked me what made The Porch so unique and special, and the first thing I pointed to was the passion, authenticity and directness of it’s leader JP.JP has a special gift of speaking in a very straight-forward way that reaches the heart of his audience.It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?