I would even bet that you’re probably hoping I write back that he does like you. At the heart of all of these games and guesses is doubt.But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” You ever play those games? It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.
Two months ago, I told him I couldn’t do the casual thing anymore and since then things have been heading downhill fast.
Today was my birthday and he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday!
I don’t want this anymore but I’m getting mixed advice from people.
Some tell me that I should text him and tell him that I don’t want to do it anymore and others tell me that I should just stop texting and just ignore him if he reaches out, which I find particularly cruel.
If you don’t want this anymore, then it really doesn’t matter what you do, does it?
It sounds like you’re pissed at him, but there’s a part of you that still wants something to happen and thinks there is a chance. Maybe you just feel like you lost a part of yourself with him… The answer is in finding how to be enough without needing him to do anything in order to feel happy and content with life exactly as it is.
When you can find that place within yourself, then dealing with him won’t be an issue.
You won’t need some kind of strategy or game plan – it’s your emotional state that’s causing you all the anguish… Only you can change your emotions and it starts with drawing fulfillment from other areas of life and loving your life and yourself in general.
To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.
I’m going to go with the assumption that you like him, mainly because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have asked.
So let’s assume that I’m right and you like him and you’d like it if he wants you back.