You can eat alone any time, but sharing dinner or lunch with someone is a special thing," says Battista. You don't want to date the person who always needs to talk to the manager about something.
"Cheating you out of eating together can be an indicator that he cuts corners in a lot of ways."7. "This is the guy who will nickel and dime it through life," says dating coach David Wygant.
This cheapstake behavior may also indicate that your date has other unattractive qualities.
While flashy shows of overspending may indicate someone who is foolish with his funds, a date who keeps his wallet on total lockdown is also flying financial red flags.
"Either way he's giving you a preview of how he will treat you when the novelty wears off," says money expert Margie Baldock, author of 1. Coffee dates are fine for first dates, but after that, if he can't invest more than a dollar or two, it might be time to question how much he values your company.
"Nothing says I'm keeping our dates casual—and you in the friend zone—more than repetitive coffee dates," says author and columnist Dave Singleton.
You can always do the "wallet grab" when the check comes, but most non-dollar-counting dates will refuse your offer to "go Dutch."4. But on a first date, it's important to give a good first impression. Unless he's sober (in which case, he's thankfully staying on the wagon), this one can be a cheapskate tip-off since alcohol bills add up.
"I'm all for Living Social and other discount couponing, but if you want to be —a new term I'm coining for singles who exhibit appropriate date behavior—then save your frugal joy for later," says Singleton. "He ought to know that he will appear much more attractive after have had a drink or two," says Baldock.
"Talking about and using coupons on a first date is as sexy as ranting about your ex." Once you are in a relationship, it's fine to use coupons to stretch your dating dollars and have more fun together! "Only a cheapskate who is unwilling to invest in a second date would fail to offer to open up a bar tab for you and improve his chances of a repeat performance."See also: 11 Reasons You Should Date a Divorced Man6. If you know you're going out to eat, why on earth would you fill up at home beforehand?
"If he has asked you out for a meal, he should know that it is an experience to be shared.
"He needs to choose date spots that show he's got imagination, not just load you up on caffeine."2. Splitting an appetizer or a dessert can be romantic, but the main dish?
"If he wants to split an entrée, it can be a sign that he is planning to split a whole lot more with you—his time, his energy, every dinner bill in your near future," says dating coach Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity.