However, as it turns out, a pretty clear line seems to have been drawn already by the Church.
Perhaps the best practice would be to reserve kissing for greetings and goodbyes. You have no right to sensual pleasure with them; it’s really as simple as that.
Let’s review the requirements for a sin to be grave and see how we stack up.
A grave (mortal) sin must meet the following three criteria (CCC 1857): (1) Pope Alexander VII’s decree leaves no room that I can see for arguing that passionate kissing can be anything less than grave matter.
And when you really think about it, that actually makes perfect sense. ” I heard this homily and this decree from Pope Alexander VII a while back, and I have been hesitant to write about it. How can young people not be expected to enjoy kissing for the sake of kissing—especially if it’s someone for whom they care deeply?
I’ve said this before, but this could be cited as one of those reasons why it is perhaps best to postpone dating until you’re at a place in life where marriage isn’t some unattainable goal in the distant future.
Dating should be for the purpose of marriage, and kisses should not be given out carelessly.
Does this mean that it’s a sin to enjoy a kiss with someone to whom you’re not married? It doesn’t necessitate a ban on kissing, and if the thought of kissing the person you’re dating doesn’t sound appealing, then you probably shouldn’t be dating that person in the first place However, this does seem to imply that if your dates are leaving room for recreational kissing then you might not be in the best of shape.
Question: If you passionately kiss someone and it means something to you (however you do not want it to go any further), is it still a sin? I’ve heard chastity speaker after chastity speaker been asked the age-old “How far is too far? ” This makes sense, and though it’s certainly a valid point to make, I think it can miss an opportunity to give some real practical advice.
And can you still go for holy communion if you have done this? Answer: Chastity is a difficult task, especially for the unmarried couple in any sort of serious relationship. Many approach the question by saying, “If your future spouse is on a date with someone else right now, what would you want that person to be doing with your bride/groom?
Boundaries need to be set, and the biggest question— asked again and again by good Christian men and women seeking to live out God’s plan for their lives— is where to draw the line. ” This is a little more on the nose, but sadly, young people are well practiced in the art of settling and justifying, and we have trouble imagining that this example could apply even to kissing.
They’ll point out that, when it comes to sin, our question shouldn’t be, “how close can we possibly get to offending God before we absolutely have to go to confession?