Men are also not faster to climax than women; it takes women the same amount of time to orgasm during masturbation as it takes men, on average, to have an orgasm through intercourse: four minutes.
Instead of being driven by biology, women’s rate of orgasm relative to men is a function of social forces.
The clitoris is hard to find and complicated to operate; it’s shy and persnickety; it disappoints its owner and mocks the efforts of her partner. Freudian echoes, anatomical mischaracterizations and gender stereotypes are part of the logic naturalizing the orgasm gap, but there is nothing natural about it.
And perhaps it doesn’t matter anyway, we continue, because women aren’t as interested in orgasm, right? We know this because women who sleep with women have many more orgasms than heterosexual women, almost as many as men who sleep with women.
Women also have no problem experiencing orgasm through masturbation and the same women who frequently have orgasms during masturbation report many fewer orgasms when they’re with a partner.
According to a large-scale survey of American adults, women have about one orgasm for every three a man enjoys. we tend to explain the orgasm gap by suggesting that women's bodies are somehow bad at orgasms.
We call this the "orgasm gap” and it’s been a point of contention since feminists identified it during the heyday of the sexual revolution. Sigmund Freud infamously posited that women should have orgasms in response to intercourse.
If they didn’t, he argued, there was something fundamentally wrong with their sexuality.
While his theory has been roundly debunked (as few as 25% of women will routinely have orgasms from intercourse), many female college students who don’t have orgasms this way assume there is something wrong with their sexual response.
College students bring some other interesting ideas too.
I’ve been asked to confirm if it’s true that women are physically incapable of orgasm before the age of 30.
I’ve explained to a truly confused listener why, anatomically speaking, women are unlikely to orgasm from anal sex.
I’ve clarified the location of the clitoris (30% of women and 25% of men don’t know where it is).