The "cute" had the tone one would use when describing a baby.
"I always wanted to have one," she said, looking into my eyes.
'AMBW' is a growing internet-dating subculture with Facebook groups, meet-ups, and websites.
Photo courtesy of Asian Men and Black Women Connections (NYC)I first learned about the "Asian Men Black Women" (AMBW) community about seven months ago, when I was on a date with a black girl.
She seemed to really like the fact that I was Asian.
She grew up watching K-pop, and said she would always think, .
They were posting photos of themselves, discussing social justice, sharing viral videos.
Some of them advertised real life meet-ups and dating events.
I live in New York City, so I figured I could find at least one AMBW meet-up group.
And I did: Asian Men and Black Women Connections NYC.
The activities they had seemed genuinely fun: vineyard tours, game nights, beach outings, and so on.
I messaged Ron, the group administrator, and suggested a meet-up I wanted to attend: "South African Food @ Madiba Restaurant." He approved, and addressed any apprehension about my presence in the event description: "A writer, Zach Schwartz, may be in attendance.
He promises that the article will be positive; he is Asian himself, and a recent member to this group." In the way that Asian men have been distorted to reflect femininity, so too have black women become masculinized.